Dear Plankton,
Having read your spot in the Times today, I feel moved to post something.
Why are you so desperate to 'find a man'? It may win you followers on Mumsnet and a brief spot in The Times, but is it really a good idea?
Experience has taught me that, if there is one thing that men hate, it's desperation. Actually, it's probably two: neediness and desperation. It scares them off. They run a mile from it. It calls to mind bunny boilers and clingy stalkers. Whiny women who are always needing to be reassured and who are a pain in the posterior. And if there is one thing that emerges from your articles, it's desperation: all that fretting and weight loss.
My advice, for what it's worth is this. Stop whining and make a conscious decision just to get on with your life and to enjoy what you have, not pine for unattainable fjords. Sit down and have a nice cuppa. And a cake. Actually, since you're now down to 7st something, two probably wouldn't go amiss. You may not currently have a life partner, but at least you are not stuck with a needy creep who requires you to pander to his every whim. As Mr. Micawber said, "something will turn up". But probably not if you signal desperation at every turn.
All the best,
M
